Wednesday, October 14, 2009

"Consensual" incest and other idiotic notions

I've recently deduced that there are many common words that we use every day which either render people retarded or I'm not as literate as I thought I was. Since I think quite highly of my own intelligence and seldom question it.....I've decided that it's the former. My dear friend recently uttered my own heart in regard to the sadistic pedophile who has been receiving support and endorsement from celebs I and many others previously respected and revered. The notion of what Roman Polanski did to a child not yet in high school being considered "not rape" caused me to reevaluate the meaning of the word. I thought that surely I had misunderstood. Or perhaps they were unaware of the details of the case.......but surely no one would deny that drugging a child and penetrating every orifice of her body with your penis is "rape". Or people are retarded.
Must be the latter.

So along this same line of reasoning, people who consider John Phillips forcibly raping and then developing a coerced relationship with his adult daughter Mackenzie Phillips are also clearly retarded. (please note: if you have already begun formulating your complaint letter to me indicting my use of the word "retarded", you can kindly remove yourself from my friend list right about............now.)

In the past two weeks, since her disclosure to the world about the incest, I have heard several people refer to the incest as "consensual sex with her father". Now despite the fact that there are instances where Mackenzie refers to it as a "sexual relationship", the fact of the matter is that anything that occurred was, by definition, wrought with coercion. John Phillips himself acknowledged prior to his passing that he had used drugs with his daughter Mackenzie, he was acutely aware of how his daughter idolized him, and probably the most coercive detail of all: other people have stated that she told them years ago about what her father had done to her....yet no one made any attempt to help her and no one so much as made a personal indictment against him, which was surely proof in her mind that even if people did believe her they would still side with him. The psychological dynamics that occur when any person is forced and then coerced into such acts with a parent, no matter what the age, are never ending. But this is not a professional assessment of the situation. It is my personal opinion, albeit affected by my professional knowledge, and a venting of sorts about the semantics that grate my ears when I hear the word consensual connected in any way shape or form to acts that followed the rape of an young adult by her father. If for no other reason than so that you will know why my head explodes the next time I hear it.

To Mackenzie I would say the following: You did what you felt was saving you at the time. You complied as a means of self preservation. The word consensual indicates an agreement of will that is not indicated by your reaction to the incest that you suffered. I wish that you had had an ally and I hope that you gain some peace in speaking.

thanks and good night.